What is not, is not ...

   1. A person has lost his diamond ring in his travel, which was a marriage gift from his wife. When he told this to his wife, she was upset. She started blaming him for his negligence.
  2. A student has failed in the final examinations. His father started beating him and mother starting crying and banging her head to the wall.

  In either cases there is no option but to live with the fact. Two ways -You cry, bang your head to the wall, fight for what happened or think what has to be done and surpass it whatever you do the past cannot be changed, so why to create unnecessary scenario.

  What has happened is happened, it cannot be reversed. Care need to be taken not to repeat it. So is this emotional drama required? But most of the times we see this happening. I am not saying emotions are not required but to avoid emotional drama.

The Teacher and The Lady

   An old story, during the times when students stayed with Teacher (Guru) served him and learned from him (gurukula) during their brahmacharya. Brahmacharya is the practice of self-imposed celibacy that is generally considered an essential prerequisite for spiritual practice in India.


  One day the teacher took his students to the river for the morning prayers (prātaḥsaṃdhyā). Near the river they saw a beautiful lady. She is worried as she needs to cross the river but doesn't know swimming and is afraid of water. The guru carried her on his shoulder crossed the river and returned back.
After their evening prayers (sāyaṃsaṃdhyā ) the students used to clarify their doubts about the daily session with the teacher.
  One of the students asked the teacher," You have carried the beautiful lady across the river is it not  immoral?". The teacher replied "No, I have left her after crossing the river, but you are still carrying her in your thoughts that is immoral. Purity is just not only actions, it starts in your thoughts."